The New Year's season brings an air of self determination in the form of new resolutions, revelations, and attitudes. Depending on individual discipline, that endurance can last a week, a month, or more rarely, the entire year. Let's be real; the holiday is partically celebrated by making empty promises to yourself. Then we get right back into the cycle of disappointing ourselves and allowing others around us to take the blame. Don't blame the innocent chocolate cake or the talented baker for your inability to stick to your written out diet! I've been encouraged to approach my personal changes from a new angle.
Something that should change in the promises that we make ourselves is the intention. The dieting so "I can find a man" or not smoking "because my wife wants me to" isn't the right energy to use. It won't take us to our final goal of completion, or satisfaction. It becomes a year long chore because the motivation comes from outside of us. The fire behind the goal you want reach is as reliable as a match in fall. Vain, mainstream, or impersonal motivations come and go just as easy as it sounds. We have stopped relying on ourselves, and essentially, trained our minds to accept failure as something we're going to do.
I came across the story of this man and his family. It wasn't about their new year's resolutions. However, their peace in remembering what matters.
Something that should change in the promises that we make ourselves is the intention. The dieting so "I can find a man" or not smoking "because my wife wants me to" isn't the right energy to use. It won't take us to our final goal of completion, or satisfaction. It becomes a year long chore because the motivation comes from outside of us. The fire behind the goal you want reach is as reliable as a match in fall. Vain, mainstream, or impersonal motivations come and go just as easy as it sounds. We have stopped relying on ourselves, and essentially, trained our minds to accept failure as something we're going to do.
I came across the story of this man and his family. It wasn't about their new year's resolutions. However, their peace in remembering what matters.
Personally, it's something so simple to know but can be difficult to maintain. It's extremely easy to make excuses for my fleshy wants and desires and to put important things, like family, on the second rung. This family knew what mattered and allowed that to be their motivation to make it through everyday. (Read the article written by Kassie Bracken here.)
Here on to day 6 of "Melody of 2010", I don't feel the weight of a chore. The things I want to accomplish, I know, should come from inside me. Don't let someone else tell you where you should be, because once you get there, they still might leave you lonely.
Here on to day 6 of "Melody of 2010", I don't feel the weight of a chore. The things I want to accomplish, I know, should come from inside me. Don't let someone else tell you where you should be, because once you get there, they still might leave you lonely.
Mel. o. D. *smile*